Why some children may find making decisions difficult
Many people take it for granted that decision making for children is easy when in fact this isn’t the case it can be a daunting process for them. It may look like an easy decision for a toddler to choose what piece of fruit they would like for a snack but don’t be fooled.
Children who are quick to make that decision are children that have confidence and feel good about themselves. It is the children who are less reluctant to make that choice are the ones that practitioners should be a little concerned about.
It is very easy to label these children as being stubborn and awkward, and it can be very frustrating for adults. In these situations, many adults will forget the purpose of the child making a decision and will give them what they think they will want. By doing this, is this actually helping or hindering the child.
There are many possibilities as to why children find decision making difficult. It is up to early years practitioners to find out about these and help the child in overcoming these difficulties. Children may be lacking self-confidence and fear that they may make the wrong decision. If children have very low self-esteem and confidence this can affect how they perceive themselves and are less likely to make decisions. As the children develop they may be thinking that by making a choice they are missing out on something else, causing them to be less reluctant to make a decision.
How can practitioners help children with decision making;
5 ways to encourage decision-making:
- Be supportive and don’t get impatient with them
- Respect their choice even if you prefer the other
- Give them time, don’t rush them
- Encourage them but don’t force them into making decisions they don’t agree with
- Reassure them
If children are experiencing difficulty in making a decision sit and talk with them about this. Help them to feel more at ease, which will help them develop their confidence.